Compassionate Things to Say When Someone Is Grieving

When someone you care about is grieving, it can be hard to know what to say. You may feel unsure, afraid of saying the wrong thing, or tempted to offer advice to “make it better.” But grief isn’t something that needs to be fixed—it needs to be supported. Offering compassionate words can help your loved one feel seen, heard, and less alone.

Here are a few compassionate things to say to someone who is grieving:

“I’m here to sit with you in whatever you’re feeling.”
Let them know that their emotions- sadness, anger, numbness- are all valid, and that they don’t have to grieve alone.

“There’s no right way to grieve. Take all the time you need.”
This reminds them that grief is personal and not something to be rushed.

“Would it be helpful if I just listened?”
Sometimes people don’t need advice- they just need a safe space to talk.

“I’m thinking of you and sending love.”
Even a simple message like this can bring comfort, especially in the days and weeks after a loss.

Things to avoid include minimizing their loss (“At least they lived a long life”), rushing their healing (“You’ll feel better soon”), or offering clichés (“Everything happens for a reason”). Instead, aim to listen more than you speak.

Grief is a deeply human experience. If you’re navigating your own grief—or trying to support someone through theirs—it’s okay to seek help. Talking to a therapist can provide the support and tools you need.

Need help navigating grief or supporting a grieving loved one? Reach out today to connect with a licensed therapist.